|A proverb often attributed to George Washington states: “Government … like fire, is a dangerous servant, and a fearful master.”|
While it’s uncertain that George Washington really spoke those words, the proverb still rings true and captures the challenge that has faced humanity since the first governments were formed in history. Government can not only allow us to protect ourselves from external aggression but can also be used to oppress and coerce citizens.
Unfortunately, history demonstrates that governmental oppression has been far more common than liberty – and this fact proves painfully true in the realm of education.
Last month, a parent from Sweden emailed a pastor named John Piper with a concern that struck close to home. In his email, he described a national education system overtaken with the radical extremes of modern Marxist thought, specifically with ideas that teach that maleness and femaleness is defined by how you feel about your body rather than biology. He added that Sweden has placed so many restrictions upon Christian and private schools that they are forced into the position of teaching that same ideology. In Sweden, an attempt to remove your child from such indoctrination by teaching them within the home is grounds for the government to remove them from home and force them into foster care.
Such stories are rightly shocking to families in America, but we have to understand that it is a clash of worldviews that creates stories such as these. Central to the clash is the question of whether families or governments should have the primary responsibility of raising children.
There is no doubt that families can benefit when government enacts policies that help families to thrive. Also, government and civil society receive tremendous benefit from the traditional family. The clash comes when some view government as the prime authority in deciding what is best for the child.
That mindset is popular among some within the government and in academia. And because of that mindset among the liberal elites, Americans face growing pressure to bow to certain “experts” within the public school system. These “experts” teach ideas such as “Critical Race Theory” and the gender spectrum (including a “non-binary” gender in which someone is neither a man nor a woman). They teach that boys should be allowed to play in girls’ sports (disregarding the very real physical advantage boys have), and they instruct our children that the whole world is subdivided by a Marxist narrative of “The Oppressed” and “The Oppressor.”
When such ideas grow within a government, that government is on the cusp of changing from servant to master. The government that we witnessed in this year’s legislative session in Santa Fe displayed a disdain for the family that should set off alarm bells.
Because of your help, Family Policy Alliance of New Mexico has been blessed to provide a greater voice in speaking about these crucial topics as they surface in our state. Thank you for standing with us to ensure that the government is a source of protection, not tyranny.
The Family Policy Alliance of New Mexico Team
Are the kids in your life back to school, or headed there soon? Whether they’re returning in-person or online, you may find yourself concerned about the kind of material your children or grandchildren are exposed to in the classroom. Students as young as kindergarten face increasingly sexualized content and may encounter material opposed to your fundamental beliefs – and that’s just in the classroom.
Thankfully, parents don’t have to feel powerless in the face of the January back-to-school season. Our new easy-to-read guide, Back to School – for Parents, explains what you need to know about potential areas for concern in your child’s school, and helps you understand what you can do to protect your child.
In the article below, a version of which appeared in The Daily Signal, our Policy Manager and attorney Stephanie Curry shares more about the FREE guide, available for download at our website. Check it out today!
Policy and Communications Strategist
How to Stop Schools from Parenting Your Children
By Stephanie Curry
I’m tired of schools trying to play the role of surrogate parents.
Like too many parents across our nation, I’ve become increasingly concerned about the radical social and political ideas that are being forced upon our children in public schools.
While I’m raising my children with biblically based morals and values at home, schools are undermining and refuting those same lessons in the classroom. They’re striving to replace my role as parent, and that isn’t right.
Parents don’t just have a vague and general prerogative to parent their children. Parenting is a fundamental right. It is a foundational cornerstone of a civilized society and a right that is clearly defined and recognized by our constitutional law.
This fundamental right to parent includes the right for us to decide what kind of educational, moral, and religious upbringing our children will have, without unreasonable government interference.
Unfortunately, it seems this ancient right is lost on our modern-day school systems, which work overtime to teach our children a radical moral code of sexual identity—one that violates the beliefs of countless families.
We don’t send our children to public school so they can be forced to consider the morality of sexual lifestyle choices.
We don’t expect our first graders to be prompted to speculate about whether their biological sex is a question that has multiple answers.
We don’t expect teachers to lecture our children about the moral consequences of voting for one candidate over another or to tell our children (illegally) that they can’t pray at lunchtime.
And we certainly don’t send our children to school to be offered free irreversible medical treatments like abortions or encouraged to consider cross-sex hormones without our knowledge or consent.
Once the rare anecdote, these unexpected scenarios are now overflowing across the nation. There is an alarming trend that concerned parents need to know about. What exactly is happening in our schools, and what can parents do to protect their children?
At Family Policy Alliance®, we have released a new book, “Back to School—for Parents,” which takes parents on a journey through each part of the school system where student and parental rights violations are trending.
The guide explains the legal rights you and your child have in the classroom, school bathrooms, sports teams, the nurse’s office, and more.
For example, in the classroom, you have the federal right to view your child’s lesson plans, observe class, and review curriculum. You also have the constitutional right to opt your child out of classroom content that violates your religious and moral beliefs.
In the nurse’s office, you have the right to limit the type of medical treatment your child receives in school, such as declining all “abortion-related” materials.
You have the right to testify at local school board meetings regarding concerns you have.
“Back to School—for Parents” gives you specific suggestions you can carry out today to maintain your rights to parent and define morality for your child even when you send them to school.
“Back to School—for Parents” lays out precisely what you need to know to face the unexpected. So, if your child is silenced in class for their faith, or you encounter radical sexual rights-based education, or you discover what can only be described as pornography on your school’s research database, you’ll be empowered to know exactly what to do to ensure your child is protected.
In addition, co-publisher Focus on the Family has provided guidance for each topic on how to talk to your child about difficult issues with a compassionate, honest, and forthright perspective. The book walks you through conversations with your child on difficult topics, like sexuality, identity, pornography, and more.
With this guide, you no longer have to wonder how you can possibly protect your child’s moral, ethical, and religious beliefs at school—a place where some of the biggest controversial issues of this generation are argued.
We believe parents—not the government—are best at parenting. “Back to School—for Parents” will help provide much-needed support families are seeking so they can do what they do best—parent their child.
The guide is free for download at Family Policy Alliance’s website. Check it out and share it with friends and family today.
Today, the New Jersey State Senate approved bill A4454, which if signed into law by Governor Murphy, would mandate sexual and gender identity diversity lessons starting in kindergarten. Senators were made aware before the vote that their decision would be scored and recorded for Family Policy Alliance of New Jersey’s 2021 voter guide that will be sent to 1500 churches and tens of thousands of concerned residents prior to next year’s statewide election campaigns.
Five state senators publicly spoke out against this bill, as they fought to protect your parental rights in education. It would be so helpful if you would thank them for their bold leadership.
- Senator Chris Connors (R), Lacey
- Senator Michael Doherty (R), Washington
- Senator Jim Holzapfel (R), Brick
- Senator Joe Pennacchio (R), Parsippany
- Senator Robert Singer (R), Lakewood
Family Policy Alliance of New Jersey hopes Governor Murphy will respect the fundamental religious beliefs of millions of New Jersey citizens by vetoing. Please be on the lookout for a future action alert.
Vote Tally of Senators
26 – Yes
13 – No
1 – Abstain
- Yes = teach kindergarteners about sexuality and gender identity
- No = do not teach kindergartners about sexuality and gender identity
|Addiego, Dawn Marie (D) – Yes||Madden, Fred H., Jr. (D) – Yes|
|Bateman, Christopher (R) – No||O’Scanlon, Declan J., (R) – No|
|Beach, James (D) – Yes||Oroho, Steven V. (R) – No|
|Brown, Chris A (R) – Yes||Pennacchio, Joseph (R) – No|
|Bucco, Anthony M (R) – No||Pou, Nellie – (D) Yes|
|Cardinale, Gerald (R) – No||Rice, Ronald (D) – Yes|
|Codey, Richard J. (D) – Yes||Ruiz, M. Teresa (D) – Yes|
|Connors, Christopher J. (R) – No||Sacco, Nicholas J. (D) – Yes|
|Corrado, Kristin M. (R) – Abstain||Sarlo, Paul A. (D) – Yes|
|Cruz-Perez, Nilsa I. (D) – Yes||Scutari, Nicholas P. (D) – Yes|
|Cryan, Joseph P. (D) – Yes||Singer, Robert W. (R) – No|
|Cunningham, Sandra B. (D) – Yes||Singleton, Troy (D) – Yes|
|Diegnan, Patrick J., Jr. (D) – Yes||Smith, Bob (D) – Yes|
|Doherty, Michael J. (R) – No||Stack, Brian P (D) – Yes|
|Gill, Nia H. (D) – Yes||Sweeney, Stephen M. (D) – Yes|
|Gopal, Vin (D) – Yes||Testa, Michael L., (R) – No|
|Greenstein, Linda R. (D) – Yes||Thompson, Samuel D. (R) – No|
|Holzapfel, James W. (R) – No||Turner, Shirley K. (D) – Yes|
|Kean, Thomas H., Jr. (R) – No||Vitale, Joseph F. (D) – Yes|
|Lagana, Joseph A. (D) – Yes||Weinberg, Loretta (D) – Yes|
Please take 30 seconds to thank the five senators, and then share the link with others. Thank you for spreading the word!
Family Policy Alliance of New Jersey
Earlier this week, we let you know about our brand-new, FREE book for parents: Back to School—for Parents. This book, which Dr. Michelle Cretella, Executive Director for American College of Pediatricians, called “the most important book a parent will ever read,” is designed to help you understand what’s happening in your child’s school – and do something about it. Each chapter of the book addresses a particular area of the school – the classroom, counselor’s office, school devices, etc.
Wondering what it’s like? Today we’re pleased to offer an abridged excerpt from the “Classroom” chapter. To read more, download your copy of the guide today and share it with friends!
Protecting Your Child in the Classroom
COMPREHENSIVE SEX EDUCATION
Parents and concerned citizens in Washington state were upset when legislators passed a “Comprehensive Sex Education” (CSE) bill – and started finding out what was in some approved CSE curriculums. One mother said, “I began reading all these lessons for children as young as five that talked about sexual intercourse, how their private organs worked, and even introduced pornography to really young children.” The parents note that activist groups like Planned Parenthood are behind the push to require all schools to teach sexual education.
What’s Happening With Comprehensive Sex Education. . .
Comprehensive Sex Education (CSE) is a radical “rights-based” sexuality curriculum that is being taught in many public schools, replacing the facts-based sex education of the past. Basic sex education previously promoted abstinence with a focus on biology, pregnancy, and sexually transmitted disease/infection (STD/I) prevention. Today, well-funded activist non-government organizations, like Planned Parenthood, the Sexuality and Education Council of the United States (SIECUS is a private, activist organization), and Advocates for Youth, are forcing an extremist social and political ideology into our children’s classrooms under the “comprehensive sex education” banner.
It may be a surprise for many parents to learn Planned Parenthood is actually one of the largest writers and distributors of sex education curriculum in the world—a curriculum framework that teaches every child, of any age, has sexual rights, including the right to experience sexual pleasure, no matter what, as long as there is “consent.”
For example, Planned Parenthood materials (that are in many classrooms across the United States) teach:
Sex is always a good decision . . .
. . . no matter what age the child, no matter how risky the sex. . .
. . .no matter how drunk or high the child. . .
. . . And especially without parental involvement!
How do I recognize Comprehensive Sex Ed in the Classroom?
Not all CSE curriculums will go by this name. Here are specific examples of content red flags that your school may be teaching radical comprehensive sex education.
||Sex Education Words We DON’T Like (Red Flagged Words):|
Know Your Rights!
- Parental Consent:Many states allow a parent to consent to their child taking sex education or health classes. This means you can say “No!” and opt your child out of sex education classes entirely. In addition, if classroom content violates your religious beliefs or rights of conscience, you have the right to opt your child out of specific lessons. Be sure to submit your opt-out to your school officials in writing! Note: Planned Parenthood and other extreme social groups are fierce advocates of eliminating parents from a child’s sexual decision-making, including the consequences of teen sex. These groups want your child to be able to access contraceptives, birth control, STI treatment, and even abortion without your knowledge or consent. Some state laws allow parents to be excluded from these decisions their child may make. See Chart (available in the full guide online)
- Curriculum Review: You have the federal (and often state) right to request a copy of your child’s school curriculum from your local school board of education. School districts may also post-school curriculums on their websites. School curriculum is usually considered a matter of public record and is required to be released to families, although you may be responsible for copying costs. Take this opportunity to review curriculum for inappropriate content, biased material, or content that contradicts your family’s values. Be prepared to talk with your child about your values and beliefs and what they are being taught.
- Lesson Plan Review: You have the federally protected right to review teacher lesson plans and examine textbooks and other supplemental materials (like videos, activities, games, etc.). As a courtesy, be sure to give the teacher ample notice you’d like to review their lesson plans or other instructional materials. It is also important to build good relationships with your students’ teachers to make access to content far easier.
- Observe Class: You have the federally protected right to observe your child’s class. You may need to provide the school notice beforehand. Some schools are actively seeking parents to sign waivers that they will not observe their child’s classroom. You have the federally protected right to do so, even if you’ve signed a waiver and later change your mind.
ALSO INCLUDED in the full guide: MORE ways to protect your child, plus resources and tips for talking with your child about sex and related issues!
Want to get the details on what you need to know and what you can do about it? Download our FREE guide today, and be sure to share with friends!
Policy and Communications Strategist
The most important book a parent will ever read? That’s what Dr. Michelle Cretella, Executive Director of the American College of Pediatricians has called it. Today, we are thrilled to release to you a brand-new (and FREE) book we’ve coauthored with Focus on the Family: Back to School—for Parents.
If you’re like many parents, the classroom may have come home for you in 2020—and it may have revealed that you don’t like everything your student is learning in the classroom. And it’s no wonder. Families today face unprecedented challenges at school. The content may be overly sexualized, teach radical viewpoints as fact, or shut down faith-based perspectives – just to name a few concerns.
We receive questions every week from parents about what their rights are, how to navigate the bureaucracies responsible for passing these harmful policies, and how to handle these issues with children at home. We’ve created Back to School—for Parents to answer these questions, because we firmly believe that parents—not any government entity—are truly best at parenting.
The guide is filled with critical information for parents. Did you know that in some schools, a counselor could coach your child to “transition” genders or get an abortion without your consent or even your knowledge? Or that your school’s “secure” research database may be harboring pornographic images easily accessible to students? Or that your child might be told they can’t pray during lunch-time? Back to School—for Parents offers these and other important and eye-opening information for parents, together with practical help for parents who want to prevent or address these situations.
Back to School—for Parents comes highly endorsed from leading organizations, including the American College of Pediatricians. Executive Director Dr. Michelle Cretella said of the guide, “I can authoritatively say that Back to School—for Parents … is the most important book a parent will ever read. Download one for yourself, and for each of your family members and friends who cherish their kids!” Other endorsees include the Christian Medical & Dental Associations, Concerned Women for America, Gateways to Better Education, American Principles Project, and Save Women’s Sports.
For parents who have concerns about a particular aspect of their child’s school, the guide is conveniently organized into sections based on areas and activities within the school—classrooms, counselors and health clinics, bathrooms and locker rooms, sports teams, lunch time and free time, school-owned internet, and school libraries and research databases. Importantly, it also contains a section dedicated to schooling options available to families should they decide their child’s school is not a good fit for their family.
Described by others as “wonderful,” an “invaluable resource,” “much-needed,” and a “wake-up call,” Family Policy Alliance and Focus on the Family hope Back to School—for Parents will help many families prevent, identify, and solve the difficult situations they face every day at school.
The guide is FREE for download at our website. Check it out and share it with friends and family today!