I was visiting with a ministry partner in a local restaurant recently when I came across this bathroom sign. This particular bathroom was found between the women’s’ and men’s restrooms, which seemed to make sense. No big deal, right? I beg to differ.

Why do I think this matters? First, this is not called a Family Bathroom, although I’d hazard a guess that it used to be called that. It is not about family, instead it is about individualism.

Second, it uses the word “gender.” As I’ve previously noted, gender is a social construct, nothing more. Gender is how I feel today. If I identify as a male today, then I’m a male; identify as a woman, then I’m a woman. One could almost call it sexual existentialism. Sex, however, is a biological fact. One can make a strong case that it should be the deciding factor related to one’s choice of bathroom.

How did we get here? The answer lies in the phrase “inevitability of gradualness,” often ascribed to Baron Sidney Webb, and more generally the Fabian socialist movement. I love this phrase, because of how spot-on it is. It provides cutting insight into human psychology. It also provides a proven strategy for those of us with pro-life and pro-family values.

Think back a few decades and you’ll see what I mean. Remember when you were shocked to have an openly LGBT character on a television show or in a movie? Or the outrage you would have felt if an activist judge interpreted “sex” to mean “gender” and subsequently crushed the religious rights of business owners? How about a case called Roe v. Wade that we never imagined would eventually lead our nation’s representatives to openly advocate for infanticide? Our nation has been led down the wrong path on these issues for some time now and it’s only going to get worse unless we take action.

For sure, those pushing a ‘politically correct agenda’ understood the inevitability of gradualness a long time ago and have been shaping our nation for decades – like a river slowly reshaping rocks through its persistent and unending pressure. It’s a brilliant strategy – one that takes many Christians by surprise when they realize how this pervasive approach has already undermined the biblical values they hold dear.

Let’s borrow a page from the other side’s playbook and be that river. Politely ask the restaurant owner why they have an “All Genders” bathroom and not a family bathroom. Remind legislators and others in power who might be tempted to bow to political correctness that of the eight states experiencing the greatest net in-migration in 2018, six of those states had no general law creating special rights based on sexual orientation or gender identity . We do not need to trample religious rights by being politically correct in the name of economic growth. Speak out when your favorite show drifts into normalizing LGBT relationships. Advocate for movies such as Unplanned that seek to present the truth about horrible practices that an entire segment of our society readily accepts.

Be that persistent voice. Be the gradual force that repeats the message over and over. Be the river. The results are inevitable.


Mark President and executive Director

The Kansas City Star reported that the University of Kansas is one of a handful of area colleges and universities that designated dorm space exclusively for students who identify somewhere along the LGBTQ+ spectrum. Family Policy Alliance of Kansas is the leading advocate for truth about human sexuality in the state, so the reporter called me seeking comment on the decision.

Our position is unwavering… we won’t affirm anything contrary to God’s design for human sexuality, but I’ll admit, I was surprised by the news. Given everything we know about higher education in America today – and KU specifically – it wouldn’t have surprised me if the university had opened all of their dorms based on “gender identity.”

The fact that a university that celebrates every radical, revisionist, anti-biblical idea you can imagine thought better than to completely overturn the commonsense idea that men and women are different, violating the privacy rights and compromising the safety of their students, tells me these are powerful truths that won’t easily be done away with.

With your continued support, Family Policy Alliance of Kansas won’t let them.

In fact—we are hard at work today ensuring truth about human sexuality is reflected in our public schools. We’ve been hearing from parents across our state, wondering what they should do about the “bathroom and locker room issue” in their schools. We think the answer is very simple:  Our schools have a responsibility to protect the privacy and safety of our students. So, with your help, we are working with legislators to advance the Kansas Student Privacy Act in 2018. This important bill provides a fair, commonsense solution. It protects the privacy and safety of all students by making sure areas like multiple-occupancy locker rooms and bathrooms are separated by sex, while also requiring schools to provide accommodations for those who request one.

Will you please provide your most generous support today to ensure that we can advance your values on behalf of our children? Would you also take a moment to forward this e-mail to your friends and let them know that Family Policy Alliance of Kansas is standing up for all our children — yours and mine.

As always, thank you for your ongoing support of our work. We couldn’t do it without you.


Eric Teetsel
President & Executive Director

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The U.S. Supreme Court has stopped an effort to allow boys access to the girls bathrooms in a Virginia school district. At least until they can decide if they will review the Gloucester County School board’s case.

Justice Stephen Breyer said in a statement that he concurred with the four conservative justices in the 5-3 action as a “courtesy,” because the hold will “preserve the status quo.”

Alliance Defending Freedom attorneys filed a friend-of-the-court brief on behalf of 50 concerned parents, students, grandparents and community members urging the court to reverse the lower court’s decision. Jeremy Tedesco is an ADF allied attorney.

“Schools have a duty to protect the privacy and safety of all students,” he said. “The Supreme Court did the right thing in placing the 4th Circuit panel’s mandate and the preliminary injunction entered by the district court on hold until the high court itself has a chance to decide if it will take up this case.”


A pamphlet put out by the Iowa Civil Rights Commission has churches wondering if they may be forced to allow men access to women’s restrooms in places of worship.

The brochure argues that since churches are public places, they are required to comply with sexual orientation and gender identity laws.

First Liberty Institute is representing Cornerstone World Outreach, a church in Sioux City. Hiram Sasser is the group’s director of litigation.

“It (the Commission’s brochure) further compels our client to use specific pronouns when referring to certain gender identities,” he told Todd Starnes of Fox News, “and prohibits our client from even teaching its religious beliefs.

“Cornerstone World Outreach cannot be made to open its restrooms for use by individuals in accordance with their gender identities, rather than their sex assigned at birth.”

The Family Leader of Iowa is one of Family Policy Alliance’s nearly 40 state-based family policy groups. They’re concerned the free speech of pastors could be next.

“Banning what preachers can say? That kind of government intrusion into church doctrine is exactly what the Bill of Rights was written to prevent,” said Bob Vander Plaats, executive director of the group. “But when Iowa’s policy effectively becomes, ‘Call it a sin, and the government steps in,’ we no longer have a First Amendment. Even talking about God’s design for male and female might make someone feel ‘unwelcome’ and prompt government action. That’s wrong.”

Paul Weber, president and CEO of Family Policy Alliance, said it was clearly the next move by activists.

“We’ve known that this would never stop at civil unions, equal rights, or marriage,” he said. “This has always been on the agenda and churches must realize they are not immune from this fight. If they want to maintain their religious freedom, they’re going to have to stand up and say ‘enough is enough’.”

Several states have jointly filed a lawsuit against the Obama Administration for pushing its bathroom agenda onto public schools.

An announcement was made recently, giving “guidance” on Title IX and opening all public school bathrooms, showers and locker rooms to all students regardless of their biological sex.

Policy Director Autumn Leva tells us that there is a lot to be hopeful about in this latest round of legal wrangling.

We’ve compiled a list of elected officials who are standing against President Obama’s edict on bathrooms in public schools. You’ll find articles attached if you’re interested in reading more.

Attorney General Opposes

Governor Opposes

Governor, Lt. Gov., and Top Education Official Oppose

Governor Opposes

Governor Opposes

Governor Opposes

Lt. Gov. Opposes DOJ’s NC Lawsuit

Attorney General Opposes

South Dakota
Attorney General Opposes

Governor Opposes

Governor, Lt. Gov. and Others Oppose

Governor Opposes

Governor Opposes

In addition, West Virginia, Arizona, Kansas, Nebraska, Texas, Utah, and Maine signed onto a brief asking the Fourth Circuit to rehear the Gloucester case in which it sided with a transgender student.


U.S. Senators Oppose

Bill Cassidy – Louisiana

David Vitter – Louisiana

James Lankford – Oklahoma

John Thune – South Dakota

Lamar Alexander – Tennessee

John Cornyn – Texas

Ted Cruz – Texas



Members of Congress Oppose

Gary Palmer – Alabama

Martha Roby – Alabama

Steve King – Iowa

Ralph Abraham – Louisiana

Bill Huizenga – Michigan

Kristi Noem – South Dakota

Diane Black – Tennessee


Additional Notes

32 Louisiana Legislators Oppose

Alabama legislator promises to bring bill in next session to block implementation in Alabama

Wisconsin legislator promises to bring his bathroom privacy bill back again


We want you to hear from Kate. We think her opinion matters.

As we all consider the policy changes we’re seeing concerning privacy in restrooms and locker rooms, we think there are certain voices being ignored — perhaps on purpose. We encourage you to share Kate’s story to offer people a different perspective on this issue.

North Carolina’s governor is taking a lot of heat for signing a bill to protect the privacy of women and girls just like Kate. The governor could use your support right now. We encourage you to send a hand-written note to let him know he’s not alone. Gov. Pat McCrory staff has let us know how much it’s meant to hear from you. Please write to him at the address below. If you’re in a hurry, you can always send an email through our Action Center.

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Fifty-one families signed on to a lawsuit seeking to change a dangerous restroom policy enacted by a Chicago-area public school. It allows students to use the restroom of the gender which with they say they “identify.” It would give boys access to girls restrooms, locker rooms and showers.

Township District 211 instituted the policy after the U.S. Department of Education threatened to pull federal funding from the school. The DOE claims the school is in violation of Title IX.

“No government agency can unilaterally redefine the meaning of a federal law to serve its own political ends,” said Alliance Defending Freedom Legal Counsel Matt Sharp. “The Department of Education is exceeding what it is legally and constitutionally allowed to do. In fact, at least five other federal and state courts have rejected the DOE’s interpretation of Title IX.”

The lawsuit asks that the policy be overturned and any agreements with the Department of Education deemed illegal. Attorneys with the Thomas More Society are serving as local counsel on the case.

“It’s a massive step backwards to force women to give up their inherent right to bodily privacy,” said Thomas More Society attorney Jocelyn Floyd. “To impose such a rule on still-developing teenage girls, as they’re already struggling with puberty’s changes on their bodies and social pressures to look a certain way, undermines their dignity and tells them that their rights don’t matter. This isn’t a message our schools should be sending to our girls.”


Target announced a change in policy that allows men access to the women’s restrooms and changing rooms in their stores.

In a statement, the company said: “We welcome transgender team members and guests to use the restroom or fitting room facility that corresponds with their gender identity.”

The store’s Facebook page lit up with people condemning the policy, like this post from Laura Prater.

“…in your desire to be inclusive, you have failed to be inclusive to women and children. If anything, change all your bathrooms and changing rooms to single stall. You need to seriously consider this decision. You are not above the laws to protect ALL your guests, not just the LGBT community.”

Texas Values, one of Family Policy Alliance’s nearly 40 state-based groups, is asking Texans to express their opinion.

“Legitimate concerns about these policies are to be expected,” they wrote, “and are based on growing instances where men have entered women’s bathrooms to take video and pictures of women and girls, assault women or expose themselves in the restrooms. It is simple common sense for voters across the nation to protect women and children from being forced to share bathrooms or dressing rooms with grown men.”

We’re sending a petition to Target telling them we “Expect more.” We want restrooms and changing areas that keep women and children safe.

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